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At the time of our third pregnancy, we had not heard of anyone
birthing their baby without a doctor or midwife's assistance.
(Of course, almost everybody has heard of native women who would
go off into the bushes and come back a short time later with
their newborn baby. But, in America, it's just not done that
way anymore, or so the medical community would have you think.)
We had had two rather easy and uneventful, natural hospital births,
(except for a mild case of shoulder dystocia, which the
doctor had little trouble releasing). The first, a boy, weighed
9 lb. 12 oz., in Dec. 1988, and the 2nd, a girl, weighed 8 lb.
8 oz., in June 1990. (My second birth, the doctor arrived just
in time to put his gloves on, sit down, and catch the baby) After
a move across the country and a new job, in early 1991 we found
ourselves expecting a third baby, but now we had no medical insurance.
We are Christians and God plays a very important roll in all
of our decisions. After consulting with some local midwives
and finding out the amount of money they wanted up front, we
began to pray about what we were to do about the upcoming birth.
We did not have the means to pay such a large sum of money, but
God could provide if it was His will for us to go this route.
We don't agree with receiving public-aid, mainly because we don't
want the govenment feeling like they have any say over our family
decisions. We were constantly in prayer about what we should
do, but we never felt led to pursue any care from the midwives.
I began checking out books from the local library, and as I read,
I was enthralled by the normalness and naturalness of birth.
I began to wonder why women don't just stay home and birth privately,
as it is such an easy process, with complications being very
rare. Most of the complications that might arise have enough
warning that help could be sought pretty quick. One particular
book was what got me thinking that maybe we should do just that.
It is by David Stewart, entitled "Five Standards For Safe
Childbearing." It is filled with statistical information
about the safety of home birth versus the dangers of hospital
birth. I read portions of this book to my husband, Scott,
but never mentioned my desire to have this baby unattended.
First of all, I didn't think he would ever go for it, and, secondly,
I didn't want to influence him one way or the other. If
God wanted us to birth unassisted, He would have to show Scott
himself. One day, about 3 months into the pregnancy, my
husband asked me why we couldn't just have the baby at home ourselves.
WHOA! After getting over my initial shock that he actually
suggested it, we began discussing the possibilities. We
considered that my labors and births were very easy, and after
praying again, we felt that God was definitely leading us that
direction.
While normal labor and
birth needs no intervention, we wanted to be prepared for any
complications that might arise, so we purchased a few items.
We purchased a blood pressure cuff and a stethoscope, so we could
monitor the baby and I. We weren't sure how the authorities
would take it if there was a bad outcome to the birth, and so
wanted to have a record of the care we did. Through a local
midwife, I found out about a birthing supply company in Oregon,
and sent away for their catalog. We also purchased 'William's
Obstetrics', a textbook used in medical school (a 1971 edition),
so we could read up on all the different complications and how
to handle them, while realizing that the chances of any of these
complications happening was unlikely.
At about the same time
all this was happening, I came to the realization that I wanted
to become a midwife someday. I read every book I could
get my hands on that had to do with pregnancy and childbirth.
I saw what a natural process birth is, and never felt any anxiety
at all about our future unassisted birth. I told anyone
who asked that we were planning a "do-it-yourself"
birth, but after some bad reactions from a few people, I was
more cautious of who I told. (I even found out, after the birth,
that one person had planned to call 911 and have an ambulance
sent to our house when he heard I was in labor. Needless to say,
I was glad he did not hear anything until after the baby was
born.)
We continued to pray
throughout the pregnancy for a healthy baby and an easy labor
and birth. Scott studied the library books also, to prepare
himself for the role he was undertaking. This was not something
he took lightly, and he felt that the life of his wife and child
rested soley in his hands. It was a very sobering thought,
but as it should always be. He was especially facinated
by the process of labor, and how the baby emerged. He studied
about the cervix and learned how to feel if it was dilating.
(Of course, this was very uncomfortable for me.) I highlighted,
in my personal books, the areas that might be needed in a hurry
during labor, as we wanted to be prepared for anything.
In September, we ordered
the supplies that we thought we should have on hand for the birth.
We ordered a dozen sterile surgical gloves, which Scott used
because we wanted to reduce the possibility of the baby or me
getting an infection. We also ordered a bulb suction syringe,
for clearing the baby's air passages; plastic cord clamps; absorbent
underpads; a large plastic bag for covering our mattress; an
anti-bacterial handwash; sanitary pads and briefs; and a few
other things.
My 'due date' came and
went with no sign of a baby, but soon my 'Braxton Hicks' contractions
became more frequent. The evening of Nov. 8, I noticed some pink
'show'. My husband checked, but there was no real change from
the time before. I called my mother, who would be taking my children
to her house during the birth, to let her know of the new development.
I told her it may still be days away, but I just wanted her to
be prepared for whenever. I also called my sister, and friend,
who would be coming to take photos of the birth and to help out.
They would be waiting for my call. After praying for a quick
and easy birth, we went to bed.
About 2:30 a.m., something
caused me to awaken from my sleep. I couldn't figure it
out why I was so wide awake, until I felt a contraction. I wondered
if that had been what woke me up. About 10 minutes later, there
was another one. Not real strong, just enough to keep me awake.
I thought that before I woke Scott, I should get up and walk
around awhile to see if they would continue. Over the next 45
minutes or so, they did get stronger and closer together. I woke
Scott up and he checked my cervix again. He found that some definite
changes had taken place during the night, so we began to prepare
the bedroom for the birth. We put the plastic mattress cover
over our mattress, then made up the bed with a sheet that we
didn't care if it got messy. It was just after 3:30 a.m. We didn't
want to call my mother yet, because we knew it would still be
awhile. I had a few loads of laundry from the night before that
I wanted to finish, so I proceeded to pass the time washing and
folding laundry. My husband thought I was crazy, but I figured,
"Why not? I can't sleep anyway."
By 5 a.m. I knew it
was time to call everyone. The contractions were averaging 6
min. apart, and were really getting uncomfortable. I was so glad
I would be staying in my own house rather than have to travel
to a hospital again. I regretted having to wake everyone up,
but I knew this was happening fast. My friend, Marla, was already
up, waiting for my call. She said she knew I would be calling
anytime. (I still wonder how she knew that.) We got the kids
dressed and fed. My mom was marveling that I was so intent on
getting the laundry done. I only had a few minutes time when
one contraction ended until the next began. Each one required
my full attention. Finally, my husband told me to forget the
laundry. He would finish it later.
When my mom and kids
left, about 6:30 a.m., Scott checked my cervix again and found
it to be around 5 cm. My contractions were about 4 min. apart
now, and I had a few fleeting thoughts of, 'Will I really be
able to do this at home?' The next couple of hours were
a blur of contraction after contraction, and I knew that it would
soon be time to push this baby out. During this time, Scott
set out our birthing supplies on the dresser top, where they
would be easily accessible when the time came.
Finally, around 8:45
a.m., Scott said that if he was measuring right, I was all the
way open, but there was a large bubble of the bag of water bulging
in front of the head. I said we should try to break it so it
would be easier to push the baby out. (We knew by feeling from
the outside that this was another large baby.) Scott broke
the sac, and it popped with a gush. I felt so much relief. [NOTE: We now know it was not a good idea to
do artificially rupture the membranes, and have since not done
it again!] I got up on our
bed, and within minutes the urge to push took over. Alice started
snapping pictures. After just 3 pushes, Scott caught our second
son, at 9:28 a.m. on Nov. 9, 1991. He weighed 9 lb. 2 oz., and
we named him Jason Andrew. 
We got a couple of good
pictures of Scott catching him. I had no vaginal tears at all,
and, after Scott clamped the cord, Aunt Alice got to cut it.
The placenta came soon with no problems. I was up to take my
shower within 45 minutes, and it felt wonderful. We thanked God for allowing us this special
blessing, and for His guidance in the birth.
WOW! What an experience!
That was one of the major highs of my life. I felt like I was
'floating' for weeks afterward. We felt thankful to have been
blessed with such an easy birth in our own home, and I knew that
I didn't ever want to birth in a hospital again. I scheduled
an appointment with the county Health Department's 'Well Baby
Clinic,' to have him examined that first week, and he was pronounced
'a very healthy baby.' I had been a little nervous about how
the nurse would react to the circumstances of his birth, but
she turned out to have no negative remarks at all. We filed for
a birth certificate with the county registrar within a month,
which was a very easy process to fulfill.

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